What are the most erotic words a lover has said to you?
"I want you to suck my cock." As she lay in my bed stroking her strap-on cock.
My life as a writer and a polyamorous free-range kinkster.

I write Science Fiction and Fantasy. I live with my girlfriend and her husband, two teenagers and two dogs. I ride a motorcycle.
"I want you to suck my cock." As she lay in my bed stroking her strap-on cock.
I will not cheat on my current lovers or help a lover lie to their partners. Other then that love is the driving force in human life. I would do anything else for love.
I think that it is both, it can be nature and it can be learned, as far as Sexual Sadism the classic S in BDSM. I don't think that a Sexual Sadism can exist in the BDSM community. True Sexual Sadist would not bother with the community.
Things degrade as they get older. Is there a skill from your younger days that you've lost and wish you could get back?
Sorry it took so long to respond, but I did not know how to answer this question. I don't think that skills degrade with age only with none use, I try to push my skills when ever I can.
Favorite toy in your bag o' tricks?
For me it is Rope. I don't care if I am tying someone up, being tied, or tying myself up. I have yet to drop into subspace or anything but I enjoy the restriction and power exchange of being tied up.
Did realizing you were a bit "adventuresome" come all at once, or was it a slower thing, discovering bits and pieces here and there?
I have always wanted to be adventurous, but in the past I have always held back, hiding. My late dame was in the closet about everything, no one knew about our Kink or the fact that I was in her Service.
When she passed, I made a decision; I would not live in the closet anymore. I set my charges and blew up that closet. Now I live my life in the open and I am proud of who I am.